Woman Gone Mad asks London A: How do I cure a bored heart?
Dear London A: My relationship with my boyfriend has become boring. Lately, he doesn’t want to go anywhere that involves interacting with other people. We have been together for almost two years, and lately we have become the old married couple; even though we are both in our mid 30’s. In the beginning of our relationship we went to all kinds of different places, having fun and enjoying new things. However, these days a dinner date is only on special occasions: birthdays and family/friends gatherings. I’ve told him how I feel, but nothing has changed. I am too young to sit at home every weekend with him watching movies or recorded TV; I want to go out and have some fun with my man! How do I change our situation? How do I deal with the boredom without building resentment towards him? Sincerely, Woman Gone Mad
Dear Woman Gone Mad: Girl, please get yourself some business. By that, I mean get your own life! Why are you waiting on your man to entertain you? What do you like to do? What are your hobbies? While your man is holding the couch down, you should be exploring and doing things that bring joy to you. All relationships slip into a rut, where one of you wants to go and the other one wants to stop. Now, don’t get me wrong, your man doesn’t get off scot-free with being the king of snooze-ville. I find it very selfish and unfair of him to ignore your pleas. I am giving a serious side-eye to his mysterious reasoning behind denying you of something you have clearly expressed you are in need of. I would dig a little deeper into that area of your relationship, but let’s concentrate on you. I am a big believer of the fact that you cannot force someone to change; you can only inspire them to do so. So, this is why I suggest you get your own life and then share with him all the things you are experiencing. Invite him to everything you decide to do, because you want to remain engaged in your relationship. Getting your own life is not about leaving him behind; it’s more about showing him there is fun to be had, so join in. However, if this still doesn’t inspire him to get off the couch, I will then be giving you the side-eye for staying in a dead relationship. Smooches!
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